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53. Predicting Happiness in Old Age

This week on The EMDR Doctor Podcast, we’re talking about something we’ll all face eventually — getting older, and more importantly, staying happy as we do. Inspired by my mum’s 85th birthday (and her recent overseas adventure!), I found myself reflecting on what it really means to age well — beyond just staying active or eating our vegetables.

It turns out, the secret to happiness in later life isn’t just health or money… it’s belonging. Research shows that social connectedness — how many groups we belong to and how supported we feel — is the strongest predictor of happiness in retirement. But what if, like me, you’re more introverted, or you find joining new groups awkward? That’s where EMDR can help.

In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

  • Happiness is learned — and practiced. EMDR helps clear away old beliefs that block joy and connection.

  • You can rewire how you relate to others. Healing early experiences of rejection or self-doubt opens space for genuine connection.

  • EMDR isn’t just for trauma. It’s also for personal growth, confidence, and creating a more connected future.

  • It’s never too late to change. Whether you’re planning for retirement or just wanting a richer social life now, healing old patterns can make a huge difference.

Key Highlights:

  • Why happiness in later life is closely tied to social connectedness — not wealth, health, or housing.

  • The challenges introverts face when building or maintaining friendships and communities.

  • How EMDR can help reduce anxiety and self-judgment around socializing.

  • The role of EMDR in resolving old beliefs like “I don’t belong” or “I’m socially awkward.”

  • How replacing these beliefs with positive ones — like “I can be myself” or “I deserve connection” — can transform your sense of belonging.

  • Practical ways to bring these new beliefs to life, from joining book clubs to volunteering or simply reconnecting with old friends.

Resources Mentioned:

  • Dr. Lloyd’s Heal Your Past online EMDR program – Register at emdrdoctor.com.au/heal
  • Research on PTSD treatments and why EMDR is faster and more effective than traditional talk therapy for trauma

Contact and Feedback:

  • Thinking about trying EMDR for PTSD? Reach out to Dr. Lloyd at emdrdoctor.com.au
  • Note: This podcast provides general information and is not a substitute for individual medical advice. Always consult your healthcare provider for personalised recommendations.S

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